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Sunday, April 10, 2005
10:28 AM
underlying meanings*

there are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love that we feel. for fear of embarrassing the other person, or ourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words, "i love you". so we try to communicate the idea in other words. we say 'take care' or' don't drive too fast' or 'be good'. but really, these are just other ways of saying 'i love you', 'you are important to me', 'i care what happens to you', 'i don't want you to get hurt'. we are sometimes very strange people. the only thing we want to say, and the one thing we should say, is the thing we don't say. and yet, because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. and many times the meaning never gets communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted. therefore we have to listen for love in the words that people are saying to us. sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but often, the manner of saying things is even more important. a joyous insult carries more love and affection within the sentiments that are expressed insincerely.

an impulsive hug says 'i love you' even though the words spoken may be very different. any expression of a person's concern for you says 'i love you'. sometimes the espression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel. sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love it contains. but it is often there, beneath the surface. we say 'i love you' in many ways - with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes tears. sometimes we show our love by just keeping quite, and not saying a word, and sometimes speaking out, even brusquely. we show our love sometimes by impulsiveness. many times we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express.

the problem in listening for love is that we don't always understand the language of love which the other person is using. a girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say,and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be speaking his language. thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love. the problem with out world is that people rarely listen to each oher. they hear the words, but they don't listen to the actions that accompany the words or the expression on the face. or people only listen for the rejection or misunderstanding. they do not see the love that is there, just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry. we have to listen for love in those around us. if we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more loving than we realise. listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving place, after all.

love is a happy thing. it makes us laugh. it makes us sing. it makes us sad. it makes us cry. it makes us seek the reason why. it makes us take. it makes us give. above all else, it makes us live. it is not the presence or absense of people that makes the difference because a person need not be lonely even if he is alone. but that does not make us lonely. it is not a matter of being present with someone. it is a matter of being present to someone. so remember, if you love someone, tell them. remember to always say what you mean. never be afraid to express yourself. take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. sieze the day and have no regrets. most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are to day, and are what it's all about anyway.

some things to consider:

love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear.
don't cry over someone who won't cry over you.
if love isn't a game, then why are there so many players?
good friends are hard to find, harder to leave and impossible to forget.
the hardest thing to do is to watch the one you love love somebody else.
life's short. if you don't look around once in a while, you might miss it.
a best friend is like a four-leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have.
some people make the world special by just being in it.
best friends are the siblings god forgot to give you.
when it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, look beside you and your best friend will be there.
true friendship never ends.
friends are forever.
good friends are like stars. you don't always see them, but you know that they are always there.
don't frown, you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
what do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.
everything's okay in the end. if it's not, then it's not the end.
most people walk in and out of your life, but only friends leave footprints in your heart.

some humour..

murphy's laws:
1) nothing is as easy as it looks.
2) everything lasts longer than you think.
3) anything that can go wrong will go wrong.
4) if there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the one to go wrong. corollary: if there is a worse time for something to go wrong, it will happen.
5) if anything simply cannot go wrong, it will anyway.
6) if you percieve that therer are four ways in which a procedure can go wrong, and circumvent these, then a fifth way, unprepared for, will promptly develop.
7) left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse.
8) if everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.
9) nature always sides with the hidden flaw.
10) it is impossible to make anything foolproof because fools are so ingenious.

haha.. take some time to think about this.. it's really very meaningful.

woke up rather late today, that' because i slept late yesterday. i have theory of equation homework to do, and i need to borrow someone's inverse trig. oh well.

tata.

the memories
so dear